Cinderella Man – a visual on Believing and Receiving

I decided to watch a little TV last night, a rare occasion these days.

What I didn’t expect was to see Cinderella Man starring Russell Crow and Renée Zellweger – where was I when this got out in theaters…I honestly do not know.

If you want a good visual on how the Law of Attraction works – this is one of those movies where all is revealed – the Secret is revealed. The moments in magic. Bless the multi-talented Ron Howard for sneaking in this profound Universal wisdom!

Of course, as boxing is not my favorite sport, I flipped the channels whenever Russell Crow’s character went into a boxing match. Then I became so engrossed in an Extreme Makeover Home Edition segment on another channel (love, love that Ty!) that I missed Jim Braddock’s come back from the hard times he had faced during the Depression.

I had realized however that no matter what, the fighter’s (Crow) main priority was his family’s safety and comfort. That was his intention, his goal, his main purpose.

I also did catch three very important scenes – in the beginning, when the family was down to nothing, their electricity had just been disconnected in the winter, and one child was sick. In that same evening, while the children were sleeping, Crow and the amazing Renée Zellweger (wife) were sitting at the table, their faces glowing in the candle lit night (a little drama here for effect!).

Zellweger lovingly takes hold of Crow’s hands (one is broken from fighting) – she lowers her eyes as in prayer and states the following Bless us father for what we are about to receive. (That’s the Secret to Believe…being grateful even if you don’t see it)

Then at the historical match of the Depression Baer vs Braddock, at the very end – where you think Crow’s character has had it, where you think this is it, that Baer’s won the match.  You see Braddock visualizing Baer going down.  Then after so many blows from both sides, you are actually surprised that both men are still up when the sound of the bell signals the end of the match.

While his manager and others are frantically and anxiously waiting on who would or should win the match – you see Braddock in his corner smiling, even kissing this cute old guy on the head….he was BEing happy in the moment while surrounded by total chaos.

That’s the Secret to receive….and he won!

(I’m assuming here that you’ve seen the show, if not, I suggest you buy it as a reminder to keep the Secret alive going towards your goal!)

Expect magic….I am!

Love & Peace….is an inside job…Parise

The Miracle of Forgiveness

Today, I thought of providing a glimps of what could happen when we let go and allow. Or let go with the power of forgiveness.

This is a recent weekend’s event to awakening the Love within.

A few months back, I was spending the weekend with my son Jason, who’s soon to be 18 and having some school “issues”. He spends two weeks, every two weeks, along with his sister, with his dad. I had found out he had lied to us regarding applying on time to college. At that time, I had immediately suggested that he spend the weekend with me in order to try and get the bottom of his “forgetting or lying” about applying to college. My intention – if anything was to happen – would be to leave him with a knowing that he was truly loved. (keep this in mind)

Our first night wsa that of getting to the bottom of what he truly wanted in life – what tickled his fancy, what made his soul sing. We went from police officer to games developper – how’s that for soul searching?! Our Friday night was also filled with me describbing my life examples so he would see how the law of attraction works and how he could very well use it to his advantage. (normal parent talk – nothing too heavy to avoid losing the audience!)

He worked really hard in finding his deepest desires. So, we decided to call it a night around 11 pm. Before heading off to bed however, I expressed my gratitude for him being there with me and with a hug I also let him know that we had snow shoveling to do the next day – before tackling the college application.

The next morning, and before opening my bedroom blind – I lovingly expressed; “The Universe is good to me!” – and opened up to the day seeing that my wonderful neighbour had snow plowed almost 2 feet off my 75 foot driveway!!  Hurray, I yelled to my son downstairs – we have a free morning! Look at what we were gifted with!!

As Jason was in the shower, I did my Qi-Gong and blessed this new day with him.

Once my mindfullness “dance” was completed, the thought of doing something special for Jason came to mind, he had worked so hard the previous evening. So, I asked him if he wanted to check for a movies…a funny one before he went to his McD job at 5 p.m. He couldn’t find one that showed at the times we wanted, so I suggested going to Chapters. That favorite place he had always wanted to go to with only Mom….sitting on those comfy couches….reading.  YES – Chapters it is, Mom!

As we enter Chapters, Jason goes towards the fantacy section, and I “feel” my way around the store. On a table, I see this new book – maybe 150 pages called Five Wishes by Gay Hendricks…I only picked it up because of the person who wrote the intro, Neale Donald Walsch (Conversations with God). The book is about how a conversation changed the author<s life around – pretend you are on your death bed and you contemplate on what you wished you had done in your life (5 total), then turn those death bed wishes into an actual present day wish – of what you’d want now….and commit to it.

Now, that’s down my line of thinking, I had actually told the girls at work, the day before, that I did not have anymore time to waste…complaint free to me was my true ticket to happiness…and this was toward the quote I live by “Be the Change you wish to see in this world“.

So, Jason and I are sitting next to each other, him on a comfy chair and I on the window sill. We are having good conversation regarding the book he’s reading. As I continue reading 5 wishes, the author’s first wish was that of finding a loving relationship, one in which he could grow with a woman…that’s on page 37…the minute I read that paragraph where he’s asking his girlfriend if she wants to commit – I get this thought, “Buy this book for Colette” (my ex’s girlfriend). My way of making decisions now is if it feels good, I do it – that felt pretty good. If I have a hesitation – doubt, I don’t do it, and when I listen, this has never failed me.

I immediately pick up my stuff and tell Jason that I’m going to buy another book. There’s only one left where I had found mine, and as I pick it up, I thought of buying a card of Thanks.

…This is where the miracle happened….while I’m trying to choose a card, I’m also thinking about how my ex’s girlfriend means to my family, how she cares for both Jason and his sister Danika. How she’s “enduring” my X’s behaviour. This girlfriend who shares her life with my X, confided to me in Sept, that her relationship was basically similar to what I had gone thru during my marriage, but she also stated that she would stick around for a while because she really loves my kids (you can imagine how I felt about that!!) and she will try her best to make the relationship work.

Well, I was just moved to tears thinking about how grateful I felt towards her. Moved to love, releasing my anger – for all – including anger I had still left over from my childhood upbringing stuff!!!!! These tears of relief, continued while bying the book (I was in my own world of glory – no care in what others were thinking on that one!) and this continued for the whole 30 min ride home.

When I got home (Jason is at work) – I immediately wrote Colette a letter – 3 pages long, which took about 1 hour. The words flowed with ease, of asking forgiveness in my being angry towards her (I had never expressed anger towards her, we are actually friends). I also expressed how buying the book had released this negative emotion. And how I was grateful that she had also followed her inspired thought when she fell in love with my ex-husband while he was still married. (This expression alone convinced me that we should always follow our inspired thoughts).

I was healing throughout my writing and re-reading this forgiveness letter.

…then a miracle happened again – as I wrote a note inside her new book, I found the title to the book I’m presently writing, Love heals the skins of our lives.  I don’t know yet if the publisher will agree, but it’s about healing or peeling those onion skins, those surpressed negative emotions (my life’s work). And this quote also came to light; We can never get it done, we can only live each moment towards what is most important. I understood right there, about how living each moment was what truly makes the dayly miracles happen. It was thru forgiveness that I finally realized this most powerful wisdom. A major Ah! Ah! moment indeed.

My day is not over, as I’m in bed, I pick up 5 wishes book again. I had stopped reading after page 37. What I was feeling then was only pure love…hard to discribe….I actually felt lighter.

But that’s not all, those 5 wishes that the author had chosen for himself (it is personal wishes he suggests you create), I have actually completed 4 of them, including the one about the letter I wrote to my ex’s girlfriend. My mind was totally blown by this connection!!

My final thoughts on our amazing enlightning weekend:

The intention of that weekend was that if anything, Jason will know he is loved, what actually happened was not only that – but I felt true love, from none other than the Universe who keeps being good to me!

If Jason would have applied on time to college, we would never have spent the weekend together. We would never have gone to Chapters, I would never have picked up that book, the one that has changed my life – completely around – getting connected to my deepest negative emotion. Getting connected to the power of forgiveness. Connected to pure love! and letting it flow without hesitation to my ex’s girlfriend. AND Jason, he would have applied on time to a course he later might have regretted!!

Forgiveness – led to a release of a blocked energy, that of anger. I can actually let Love flow now from within – this energy is now free to all I come in contact with.

May your days be filled with moments of magic!

Love & Peace…is an inside job. This I know for sure!

The Secret and the Mouse

Living in the country, I should be able to appreciate all creatures of the animal kingdom, right? Wrong – well, at least until I applied the Secret method of appreciation.

Today’s post will touch on two issues I had this winter and how they came to pass on the same day!  You can call it coincidence – I call it just being in alignment.

First off, here in my world of Canadian winters, we’ve now enjoyed close to 3 months of snow, wind, and cold. Yet, for the very first time since the tender age of 10 – I’m actually enjoying it!  At some point however, I had some exceptions….

You see, at first when winter came, I could easily rely on my car for the commute to work.  But around mid-January, the car decided it wouldn’t start. I do have a very reliable Saturn Ion – this baby is going to last until over 300,000 clicks, for sure I will become an elite member! Nevertheless, for some reason this year, the battery was at its peak.  ”Well lady, batteries only last for so long….” the mechanic said with a grin.  OK, OK – lets buy a new one then.  And so, this is where I thought my issues would end for this baby. NOT!

When winter comes, and in order to keep the snow planted on the ground, the temperature must drop- at first it isn’t so bad but then came the chilling minus 20s and 30s…brrrr….(that’s in Celsius).

Wouldn’t you know it, my beautiful Saturn, not only wanted a new battery this year - but it also felt the need for a boost every time the temp would hit below minus 18.

Hum – would I also need a block heater now?  Or was the battery a lemon? My high-school mechanics class just couldn’t recall the knowledge to easily figure this one out.  So, I consulted.  My ex said – a block heater, my co-worker said – it’s the battery. To top it all off, my hood doesn’t open when it’s cold – sorry Saturn Fans, this is not going to help put me in your club – at least for now.  But hey, some smart guy or gal decided that Saturn Ion’s would have the battery in the trunk, oh yeah!

OK – enough already with the car issues – just to say that every time the temperature would go down at that degree – I would need a boost.  At $50 a shot, I only did it twice before I decided to call Saturn.  You are probably wondering why on earth didn’t she buy a battery booster? I don’t know, my ex kept telling me that also – it’s just stuff us girls feel is low priority (a purse at $125 is more practical, lol). 

I’m almost done with the car – bare with me just little longer.  Ok so, last week, I made the responsible choice – called Saturn to make an appointment to check out a few things – the hood and why the car doesn’t start in colder temperatures.  They said it most likely has to do with the starter – can’t recall, but apparently it’s an issue they have.  I just might not make it in the morning, I said, because minus 19 was being forecast. Just drop it off – we won’t make an appointment. The service guy also said I should leave the ignition to “ON” for 5min then try again when it doesn’t start. (I had ammunition with that knowledge) “Good luck” the service guy said.

(pause the car issue, and let’s talk about my other issue)

I can’t remember when, it must have been 2 mths ago, but we had very gusty winds pass over the central part of our continent.  In my world, that wind – decided to blow my garden shed away.  Now, it wasn’t a prized possession mind you, but it did shelter my lawn tractor, bikes, chairs, antique dresser and tools….oh, and a country looking bird house.

When that fateful day came - the bigger stuff was stored under my back porch – the tools and furniture went in the basement.  All except the bird house, which complimented so much my decor, I simply put it in a kitchen/dinning room corner.

It didn’t compute then why my Cockapoo dog and gray tabby cat where sniffing the bird hole – I only realized after I saw The Mouse!

There are just a few things that make my skin crawl – mice and spiders.

When I first saw it – my heart just flipped – and I told Cloe, the cat, it had a job to do.  Was I so distraught to stop living?  Not one bit. However, finding droppings under my toaster, wasn’t what I would call – healthy living, you know?  I also gave the cat – the conditional love look – she was failing in her animal instincts, isn’t it for that particular reason why a farmer would have a cat in the barn?

So – like the battery booster, I postponed buying a mouse trap – only because, I feared – yes feared – finding the mouse mangled with blood splattered all over the counter…wouldn’t you?  One day, however, re-counting my ego story to colleagues…I found out there was a more humane way of catching mice. Now that, I can live with.  So I bought one. And laid it out with peanut butter – on the counter.

After a week – with more droppings and no mouse with peanut buttered lips – I gave up. (note here that the mouse adventure happened  during my car issues). 

How I gave up – was not with total disgust or anger – but of acceptance. A feeling of peace came over me. It was the eave of change. As I notice yet again that the mouse simply would not be captured – I thought - ok then I will buy the other kind – the one Peta would not approve of.  Something needed to happen. I couldn’t continue having this visitor leave my family and I with discarded remains of whatever “she” ate.  And I’m sure you agree.

That night (it’s also the same day I called Saturn) - I wrote these two lines in my secret gratitude book - what I had failed to do before. Related to both my car and my mouse:

I appreciate my car starting this morning (it had been a minus 17 day) and for Saturn to tell me they could fix my car.

I appreciate my mouse, that she sticks to living on the kitchen counter. (for some reason, having “her” come upstairs in our bedrooms was worse).

I really felt gratitude – I felt relief that I was letting these two issues go.

The next morning is when – magic happened – the 5:30 am radio announcer said – it’s -19 outside, dress up! I did my normal Qi-Gong dance, brushed my teeth and went outside to warm up the car. It is a very crispy clear day. I looked at the full moon – to say “Anything is possible” – and believed it so.  I got in the car – focused on it purring away and I started the car – as if it was summer!  OH Yeah!

While my “baby” was warming up, I decided to take a shower – passing in front of my daughter’s room, I noticed something that looked like a piece of black crumbled paper. Upon giving light to my darkness – there it was – my visitor had met it’s fate….the cat (and most likely the dog) had decided to simply shake it to non-living status.  It was sad to see this cute little creature, which had enjoyed our toast crumbs for over a month – lying there lifeless. Thank you Universe for not letting me see any blood! 

And Thank you for accepting my gratitude.

Feeling relief in these two areas (the car still starts by the way) - returned my life to “normal”.

So, really – what have you written in your gratitude book lately?

Love & Peace….is an inside job….Parise

On Death and Living

Interesting subject for my 3rd post, don’t you think? 

I just found out that the spouse of one of my daughter’s teachers died yesterday – he was in his early 30’s – at exactly the period in his life where he was enjoying all of his experiences and hoping for a bright future.

And earlier today, I had a conversation about a case file in which the subject is a chronic complainer.  You know the type? Those you just cannot please – where every single day there seems to be an issue?

Why are these two related?  What is the connection between those two individuals?

Part of my conversation today included a comment I had made to my colleagues, I felt that the complainer would find herself on her death bed one day and express regret that she had wasted her time complaining instead of enjoying life in appreciation.

And tonight, I realized just how close that death bed could be.

Both of these individuals are about the same age, one has decided to leave this earth while still creating “spirit moments” and one has chosen to sloooowly die while creating “ego moments”.

To live a life of appreciation is living from the spirit, to live a life of regret or complaints is living a life from the ego.

When we feel that our happiness is someone else’s responsibility – we are living from the ego and express all sorts of emotions for whatever comes our way. Joy, laughter, relief, judgement, appreciation, wonder, sadness, anger, frustration, etc. However, whatever emotion that flows thru, will really depend on what goes on around us.  On what is happening outside of us, whether it be the snow storm or that new dress we bought.

When we live from the spirit – we find that everything, including time, is so precious that when we are on our death beds we know we’ve lived a good life.  A life in which we’ve appreciated what we had or that what we were experiencing was all good.  And for the good of all concerned.

My time is too precious to complain – and that’s why I’ve decided to take the 21 day challenge from A Complaint Free World - I’m now in my 5th day, no complaints. Whoo Hoo!

But wait a minute, have I not just complained? – about a complainer to boot!! 

Part of the challenge is to notice our complaining, criticizing and gossiping- then change the bracelet to the other wrist. Only when that bracelet has stayed on the same wrist for 21 days, will you have accomplished the challenge. Check out the Complaint Free World site if you want to vibrate (more on this later) in a peaceful zone.

What I feel right now is that when my time comes - either it be tomorrow or in 50 years from now – I will be able to safely say – “That was a beautiful ride! I’m ready to leave now – Oh and thanks for everything”.

We can never get it done, we can only live moment to moment towards what is most important. ~ Parise

It begins with Love!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Wow and I get the best present of all!! 

What I believe is true – is flowing from my own daughter!! She surprised me today with this handmade  card.  Which she had created with my ex-husband’s girlfriend, both are very talented in scrapbooking and I get blessed with the finished products!!  Life doesn’t get any better!

It begins with love the card said – yes it does, sweety, yes it does! 

I’ve learned that no matter what happens in my life, if I bring it back to what is most important – Love, that “thing” which could have created some stress, worry or doubt - simply desolves into nothingness, into a whole new outlook – into a new perception.  It even opens me up to finding the best solutions!! How cool is that?

It is quite amazing what Love can do – and by this, I am absolutely not talking about love you get from others, but the love that flows directly from you! The one that is connected to the real you!  The one that you were born from!!  Whoa!

Being connected to this powerful energy, this Divine force, if you prefer – makes the “small stuff” miniscule – and the good stuff – well, beautifully magical of course! 

In a future blog, I will attempt to describe how you can get there – how you can live this life of happiness which only begins with Love…

May all your days be as precious as this very moment, and may you share it with those you believe bring out only the best in you.

Until next time….Love & Peace….Is an inside job!

An introduction

“Be the change you wish to see in this world.” – M. Gandhi

I’m blogging!! Wow, this is a first but very beneficial next step!  I am totally grateful for my good friend Bob’s suggestion – WordPress.com seems to be the place to be for blogging! 

My intention for this evergreen view of my world, is to show what I have learned and what I continue to learn in my journey to happiness. I will also attempt, by demonstrating in my own dayly successes, that every area of your life is in fact linked together – no exception.

Law of Attraction is my passion, motivating others to view their life as nothing less than spectacular is my purpose.

Thank you for being here with me and hope you enjoy the ride!

“We can never get it done,
we can only live moment to moment
towards what is most important.” – Parise